Are your choices getting bigger or smaller?
Here's one question that helps tell healthy independence from something else:
| Choices getting bigger | Choices getting smaller |
|---|---|
| I can disagree and still have people | Disagreeing costs me people |
| I keep some things private | I'm told to keep things secret from everyone |
| I spend more time with friends | One person is replacing everyone |
| I can question what I was taught | I'm told anyone who questions this is against me |
| My people can still reach me | I'm getting harder to reach |
One moment on the right side doesn't mean something is wrong. But if your world keeps getting smaller, it's worth telling someone.
Optional activity · nothing is saved
You join a new club and make friends there.
Bigger or smaller?
Bigger or smaller?
Optional activity · nothing is saved
Someone you're close to gets upset every time you see your other friends.
Bigger or smaller?
Bigger or smaller?
Optional activity · nothing is saved
You and a parent disagree about a rule.
Bigger or smaller?
Bigger or smaller?
No score, no red/green styling, never "wrong." The purpose is learning, not grading.
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